{"id":431,"date":"2018-11-29T09:02:48","date_gmt":"2018-11-29T07:02:48","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/gocreations.info\/kalliopianthi\/?p=431"},"modified":"2020-03-19T21:33:37","modified_gmt":"2020-03-19T19:33:37","slug":"kalli-radi-24-o-vekovem-rozdilu-aneb-ona-starsi-nez-on","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/kalliopi-anthi.gr\/cs\/kalli-radi-24-o-vekovem-rozdilu-aneb-ona-starsi-nez-on\/","title":{"rendered":"Kalli rad\u00ed (24) &#8211; O v\u011bkov\u00e9m rozd\u00edlu aneb Ona star\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e On"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Mil\u00e1 Kalli,<\/p>\n<p>moc r\u00e1da \u010dtu tvoje odpov\u011bdi, tak jsem se nakonec taky odhodlala se na tebe obr\u00e1tit. U\u017e mnohokr\u00e1t se tu psalo o l\u00e1sce v \u0158ecku, j\u00e1 bych r\u00e1da na\u010dala t\u00e9ma v\u011bkov\u00e9ho rozd\u00edlu.<\/p>\n<p>Jen stru\u010dn\u011b: ona je star\u0161\u00ed (31 let), u\u017e by cht\u011bla v\u00e1\u017en\u00fd vztah, svatbu, d\u011bti atd., on (24 let) se na to ale je\u0161t\u011b nec\u00edt\u00ed, sp\u00ed\u0161 by cht\u011bl cestovat. Jsou spolu t\u0159i roky, tak\u017ee to nen\u00ed jen letn\u00ed l\u00e1ska. Takhle kdy\u017e to p\u00ed\u0161u, tak m\u011b napad\u00e1, \u017ee jedin\u00e9 \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed je rozchod, to ale nechce ani jeden. \u0158e\u0161en\u00ed ani kompromis ale nenach\u00e1z\u00ed&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>V\u017edy dok\u00e1\u017ee\u0161 hezky poradit, z\u00edskat nov\u00fd pohled, tak se budu t\u011b\u0161it na tvou odpov\u011b\u010f, p\u0159\u00edpadn\u011b i na zku\u0161enosti a koment\u00e1\u0159e \u010dten\u00e1\u0159\u016f.<\/p>\n<p>Se srde\u010dn\u00fdmi pozdravy N.<\/p>\n<div id=\"attachment_911\" style=\"width: 210px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-911\" decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-911\" src=\"https:\/\/kalliopi-anthi.gr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/backlit-beach-couple-1378723-200x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"200\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/kalliopi-anthi.gr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/backlit-beach-couple-1378723-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/kalliopi-anthi.gr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/backlit-beach-couple-1378723-768x1152.jpg 768w, https:\/\/kalliopi-anthi.gr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/backlit-beach-couple-1378723-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/kalliopi-anthi.gr\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/backlit-beach-couple-1378723.jpg 1365w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 200px) 100vw, 200px\" \/><p id=\"caption-attachment-911\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">foto Valentin Antonucci<\/p><\/div>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Mil\u00e1 N.,<\/p>\n<p>\u00favodem chci \u0159\u00edct, \u017ee takov\u00e9 stru\u010dn\u00e9 dotazy jsou pro m\u011b v\u00fdzvou. \u010c\u00edm v\u00edc informac\u00ed, t\u00edm sp\u00ed\u0161 se d\u00e1 odhadnout vhodn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed. Te\u010f si p\u0159ipad\u00e1m jako \u0161vadlenka, kter\u00e1 m\u00e1 u\u0161\u00edt \u0161aty n\u011bkomu, koho nezn\u00e1 a nem\u00e1 ani mo\u017enost si ho zm\u011b\u0159it. Tak\u017ee se pokus\u00edm o n\u011bjak\u00fd <strong><em>univerz\u00e1ln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed<\/em><\/strong> <strong>\u201c<em>st\u0159ih\u201d,<\/em><\/strong> aby byly \u0161aty spl\u00fdvav\u00e9 a vhodn\u00e9 pro v\u0161echny p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitosti\u2026 Kdybys cht\u011bla n\u011bjak\u00e9 \u201cvypasovan\u011bj\u0161\u00ed na m\u00edru\u201d, hodn\u011b na t\u011blo, pop\u0159\u00edpad\u011b \u0161ati\u010dky p\u0159\u00edmo svatebn\u00ed, tak to je\u0161t\u011b dolad\u00edme pomoc\u00ed koment\u00e1\u0159\u016f nebo telefonick\u00e9 konzultace. V ka\u017ed\u00e9m p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b bude na tob\u011b jak tyto \u201c\u0161aty\u201d pou\u017eije\u0161, zda usoud\u00ed\u0161, \u017ee ti padnou a slu\u0161\u00ed, nebo je str\u010d\u00ed\u0161 do sk\u0159\u00edn\u011b jako n\u011bco nep\u0159\u00edli\u0161 u\u017eite\u010dn\u00e9ho.<\/p>\n<p>U\u017e to vid\u00edm, jak se na facebooku vytv\u00e1\u0159\u00ed dv\u011b skupiny s jasn\u00fdm n\u00e1zorem: \ud83d\ude09<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>A\u0165 ho nech\u00e1 plavat a najde si po\u0159\u00e1dn\u00e9ho chlapa, co chce rodinu!<\/li>\n<li>Jestli ho opravdu miluje a on ji, tak a\u0165 mu d\u00e1 trochu \u010dasu!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>A\u010dkoliv by to na prvn\u00ed pohled mohlo vypadat, \u017ee \u201ejedin\u00e9 \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed je rozchod\u201c, (jak p\u00ed\u0161e\u0161) j\u00e1 bych to jako \u0159e\u0161en\u00ed nevid\u011bla. Rozhodn\u011b ne d\u0159\u00edv, ne\u017e si Ona uv\u011bdom\u00ed, pro\u010d s N\u00edm vlastn\u011b je. \u010c\u00edm ji zaujal? Pro\u010d se do n\u011bj zamilovala? \u010c\u00edm je jin\u00fd, ne\u017e ti v\u0161ichni ostatn\u00ed, se kter\u00fdmi se setkala d\u0159\u00edv? <strong><em>Co Ji dr\u017e\u00ed po Jeho boku? <\/em><\/strong>V\u011b\u0159\u00ed, \u017ee by byl dobr\u00fd otec?<\/p>\n<p>A co On? Co u N\u00ed nach\u00e1z\u00ed? Jak si p\u0159edstavuje budoucnost s N\u00ed? Pl\u00e1nuje v\u016fbec budoucnost nebo se sp\u00ed\u0161 t\u011b\u0161\u00ed z p\u0159\u00edtomnosti?<\/p>\n<p>V\u011b\u0159\u00edm, \u017ee KA\u017dD\u00dd vztah je nesm\u00edrn\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u00fd, proto\u017ee skrze n\u011bj pozn\u00e1v\u00e1me, co n\u00e1m vyhovuje a co ne, kdo jsme a p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm, k\u00fdm se chceme st\u00e1t. Druh\u00fd \u010dlov\u011bk n\u00e1s inspiruje, nastavuje n\u00e1m zrcadlo, pop\u0159\u00edpad\u011b n\u00e1m i d\u00e1v\u00e1 p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitost se vymezit, ohradit proti n\u011b\u010demu, co nechceme sn\u00e1\u0161et.<\/p>\n<p>Dva lid\u00e9 jsou spolu, proto\u017ee jeden od druh\u00e9ho <strong><em>p\u0159ij\u00edmaj\u00ed n\u011bco cenn\u00e9ho<\/em><\/strong><em>.<\/em> Kdy\u017e rozpoznaj\u00ed, co to je, budou tak\u00e9 v\u011bd\u011bt, zda to \u010dasem hodnotu ztr\u00e1c\u00ed nebo z\u00edsk\u00e1v\u00e1. Jestli m\u00e1 smysl ve vztahu z\u016fst\u00e1vat, nebo ne.<\/p>\n<p>Dokud <strong><em>oba dva<\/em><\/strong> ve vztahu \u201erostou\u201c (ve smyslu, \u017ee <strong><em>se vyv\u00edjej\u00ed<\/em><\/strong>, nejen \u017ee spolu st\u00e1rnou), tak m\u00e1 vztah smysl. A to i tehdy, kdyby nep\u0159i\u0161ly d\u011bti. Na druh\u00e9 stran\u011b \u2013 po narozen\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte je ten v\u00fdvoj rychlej\u0161\u00ed a z\u00e1sadn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>V\u011bkov\u00fd rozd\u00edl<\/strong>, aneb P\u00e1r obecnost\u00ed, kter\u00e9 v\u00ed ka\u017ed\u00fd&#8230; \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n<p>Zpravidla b\u00fdv\u00e1 \u017eena mlad\u0161\u00ed, pop\u0159. stejn\u011b star\u00e1 jako partner. Vych\u00e1z\u00ed to z p\u0159irozen\u00e9ho rozd\u00edlu v psychick\u00e9m a biologick\u00e9m dozr\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed mezi ob\u011bma pohlav\u00edmi. Ve 14 letech u\u017e je d\u00edvka sle\u010dna se zavr\u0161en\u00fdm hormon\u00e1ln\u00edm v\u00fdvojem a se z\u00e1jmem o vztahy. Pokukuje po 16 let\u00fdch mlad\u00edc\u00edch, proto\u017ee ti stejn\u011b sta\u0159\u00ed d\u00e1vaj\u00ed p\u0159ednost klu\u010di\u010d\u00ed part\u011b. R\u016fst chlapc\u016f b\u00fdv\u00e1 ukon\u010den mezi 17. a 18. rokem. To u\u017e \u201en\u011b\u017en\u00e9mu pohlav\u00ed\u201c v\u011bnuj\u00ed v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed pozornost, l\u00e1k\u00e1 je \u017eeny pozn\u00e1vat a sb\u00edrat sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed zku\u0161enosti. N\u011bkdy to trv\u00e1, ne\u017e za\u010dnou odpov\u00eddat i na citov\u00e9 pot\u0159eby \u017eeny a cht\u00edt budovat trvalej\u0161\u00ed partnersk\u00fd vztah.<\/p>\n<p>Chlapec d\u0159\u00edve citov\u011b vyzr\u00e1l\u00fd, kter\u00fd by r\u00e1d nav\u00e1zal vztah, zpravidla b\u00fdv\u00e1 stejn\u011b star\u00fdmi d\u00edvkami p\u0159ehl\u00ed\u017een. To v\u0161echno vede k tomu, aby se obr\u00e1til na d\u00edvku mlad\u0161\u00ed, kter\u00e1 ho bude obdivovat, bude k n\u011bmu vzhl\u00ed\u017eet.<em> <strong>Kdy\u017e je partnerka mlad\u0161\u00ed, mu\u017e se c\u00edt\u00ed sebev\u011bdom\u011bji<\/strong><\/em>. C\u00edt\u00ed se siln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, zku\u0161en\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, jist\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. M\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt jej\u00edm \u201eochr\u00e1ncem\u201c. A to \u017een\u011b vyhovuje p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm v situac\u00edch, kdy jeho pochopen\u00ed a podporu pot\u0159ebuje (co\u017e pr\u00e1v\u011b t\u011bhotenstv\u00ed a mate\u0159stv\u00ed p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed). Tehdy <strong><em>mu\u017e poskytuje \u017een\u011b z\u00e1zem\u00ed<\/em><\/strong><em>. <\/em>Pos\u00edlena jeho silou m\u016f\u017ee l\u00edp pe\u010dovat o d\u00edt\u011b.<\/p>\n<p>A naopak: <strong><em>Kdy\u017e je partnerka star\u0161\u00ed, mu\u017e se u n\u00ed c\u00edt\u00ed v bezpe\u010d\u00ed, m\u00e1 v \u017een\u011b z\u00e1zem\u00ed. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>U n\u00e1s v \u0158ecku je dost mimo\u0159\u00e1dn\u00e9, aby byla \u017eena star\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e mu\u017e. \u010c\u00edm v\u00edc na sever Evropy, t\u00edm je to ale b\u011b\u017en\u011bj\u0161\u00ed. Nap\u0159\u00edklad ve \u0160v\u00e9dsku, je to t\u00e9m\u011b\u0159 pravidlem. Jin\u00fd kraj, jin\u00fd mrav&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Pro\u010d ho l\u00e1k\u00e1 star\u0161\u00ed partnerka? <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong><em>Mo\u017en\u00e1 u n\u00ed hled\u00e1 p\u0159ijet\u00ed a z\u00e1zem\u00ed, kter\u00e9 se mu nedostalo od matky<\/em><\/strong>. (Brzo zem\u0159ela, byla nemocn\u00e1 pop\u0159. citov\u011b chladn\u00e1). Nahrazuje-li mu matku, pozn\u00e1 se to tak, \u017ee od n\u00ed vy\u017eaduje velkou citovou podporu, na kter\u00e9 je z\u00e1visl\u00fd. Ve vztahu je p\u0159irozen\u00e9, \u017ee m\u00e1 ka\u017ed\u00fd z partner\u016f siln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed a slab\u0161\u00ed chv\u00edle. Pokud je ale jeden trvale d\u00e1vaj\u00edc\u00ed a druh\u00fd p\u0159ij\u00edmaj\u00edc\u00ed, pak se nem\u016f\u017eou vz\u00e1jemn\u011b podpo\u0159it v n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00edch situac\u00edch. Jin\u00fdmi slovy: Pokud \u017eena supluje mu\u017ei jeho matku, nem\u016f\u017ee od n\u011bj \u010dekat podporu, kdy\u017e se jim narod\u00ed d\u00edt\u011b. V\u011bt\u0161inou si pak st\u011b\u017euje, \u017ee m\u00e1 d\u011bti dv\u011b a je na v\u0161echno sama. (To se v\u0161ak m\u016f\u017ee st\u00e1t, i kdy\u017e je mu\u017e star\u0161\u00ed ne\u017e \u017eena, pokud je emo\u010dn\u011b nenapln\u011bn\u00fd). Jestli tam jsou takov\u00e1 t\u00e9mata, bylo by je pot\u0159eba zpracovat. Nen\u00ed zaru\u010deno, \u017ee roky p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161ej\u00ed \u201czralost\u201d automaticky. Kdy\u017e si v sob\u011b n\u011bkdo nos\u00ed vnit\u0159n\u00ed zran\u011bn\u00ed, tak ho bude m\u00edt i v 35letech, i po absolvov\u00e1n\u00ed cesty kolem sv\u011bta. Po\u0159\u00e1d m\u016f\u017ee m\u00edt vnit\u0159n\u00ed nechu\u0165 zalo\u017eit si rodinu, proto\u017ee si nebude v\u011b\u0159it, \u017ee to zvl\u00e1dne \u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u011b.<\/p>\n<p><em><strong> Vyhovuje mu jako rovnocenn\u00e1 partnerka<\/strong>.<\/em> Maj\u00ed spole\u010dn\u00e9 z\u00e1jmy, je jim spolu dob\u0159e. On m\u00e1, i p\u0159es sv\u016fj v\u011bk, takov\u00e9 \u017eivotn\u00ed zku\u0161enosti, \u017ee si s n\u00ed rozum\u00ed v\u00edc ne\u017e s d\u00edvkou stejn\u00e9ho v\u011bku.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em> Je pro n\u011bj atraktivn\u00ed sexu\u00e1ln\u011b<\/em><\/strong>. Pokud je spont\u00e1nn\u00ed, sebev\u011bdom\u00e1 a v\u00e1\u0161niv\u00e1, tak m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt mnohem p\u0159\u00edjemn\u011bj\u0161\u00ed dru\u017ekou ne\u017e mlad\u0161\u00ed nezku\u0161en\u00e1 d\u00edvka, kter\u00e1 \u010dasto nev\u00ed, co p\u0159esn\u011b chce (a to mo\u017en\u00e1 nejen v sexu).<\/p>\n<p>Jsou-li jeho d\u016fvody p\u0159ev\u00e1\u017en\u011b nebo v\u00fdhradn\u011b sexu\u00e1ln\u00ed, tak je mo\u017enost, \u017ee po ur\u010dit\u00e9 dob\u011b ochladne. \u017de pozd\u011bji vyhled\u00e1 mlad\u0161\u00ed partnerku, se kterou se bude c\u00edtit siln\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, mu\u017en\u011bj\u0161\u00ed, a s tou zalo\u017e\u00ed rodinu. Pokud se v\u016fbec chce \u017eenit a m\u00edt rodinu. Je \u010d\u00edm d\u00e1l v\u00edc lid\u00ed, kte\u0159\u00ed po tom netou\u017e\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Pro\u010d se nechce \u017eenit? <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Zde v \u0158ecku bylo v d\u0159\u00edv\u011bj\u0161\u00edch dob\u00e1ch man\u017eelstv\u00ed a n\u011bkolik potomk\u016f (p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm syn\u016f) nutn\u00fdm p\u0159edpokladem k z\u00edsk\u00e1n\u00ed \u010di udr\u017een\u00ed spole\u010densk\u00e9ho postaven\u00ed. Rodi\u010de od sv\u00fdch dosp\u011bl\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed o\u010dek\u00e1vali s\u0148atek a nikdo se p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 nezab\u00fdval t\u00edm, jestli jsou na n\u011bj zral\u00ed a p\u0159ej\u00ed si ho. Tak se to p\u0159ed\u00e1valo z generace na generaci. Ale v sou\u010dasnosti \u010d\u00edm d\u00e1l v\u00edc lid\u00ed vystupuje z tohoto tradi\u010dn\u00edho modelu (a naprogramov\u00e1n\u00ed) a chce si prosadit pr\u00e1vo na svobodu. U\u017e jenom ozna\u010den\u00ed \u201esvobodn\u00fd\u201c mluv\u00ed za sv\u00e9. A nen\u00ed to jenom o svobod\u011b b\u00fdt s jakoukoli \u017eenou, zat\u00edmco \u201e\u017eenat\u00fd\u201c m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt jenom s tvou svoj\u00ed&#8230; Je to i o svobod\u011b rozhodovat se nez\u00e1visle na v\u016fli nebo pot\u0159eb\u00e1ch n\u011bkoho jin\u00e9ho. \u017d\u00edt sv\u016fj \u017eivot propojen s jin\u00fdmi lidmi, nikoli <strong><em>sv\u00e1z\u00e1n <\/em><\/strong>jenom s jedn\u00edm. Tak\u017ee jedn\u00edm z d\u016fvod\u016f m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt <strong><em>touha po svobod\u011b a nechu\u0165 k vazb\u011b <\/em><\/strong>(lidov\u011b \u201echomoutu\u201c).<\/p>\n<p>D\u00e1le pak <strong><em>strach p\u0159evz\u00edt roli man\u017eela a otce<\/em><\/strong>. Mlad\u00e1 generace je ke s\u0148atk\u016fm pon\u011bkud skeptick\u00e1, je zran\u011bn\u00e1 rozvody a \u010dasto j\u00ed chyb\u00ed vzor jak\u00e1 m\u00e1 vlastn\u011b spr\u00e1vn\u00e1 m\u00e1ma nebo spr\u00e1vn\u00fd t\u00e1ta b\u00fdt. D\u0159\u00edve otcov\u00e9 zaji\u0161\u0165ovali svou rodinu finan\u010dn\u011b a v\u011b\u0159ili, \u017ee to sta\u010d\u00ed. Nerozum\u011bli a nev\u011bnovali pozornost citov\u00fdm pot\u0159eb\u00e1m sv\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed. Te\u010f u\u017e v\u011bt\u0161ina mu\u017e\u016f v\u00ed, jak moc je dobr\u00fd t\u00e1ta pro d\u00edt\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u00fd, ale mo\u017en\u00e1 nev\u00ed, jak se j\u00edm st\u00e1t.<\/p>\n<p>To, \u017ee si ho Ona chce vz\u00edt a m\u00edt s n\u00edm d\u011bti znamen\u00e1, \u017ee <strong><em>v\u011b\u0159\u00ed, \u017ee bude dobr\u00fdm otcem<\/em><\/strong>. V\u011b\u0159\u00ed, \u017ee se na N\u011bj bude moci spolehnout. To ov\u0161em neznamen\u00e1, \u017ee si v\u011b\u0159\u00ed i On s\u00e1m.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Kdy chce m\u00edt mu\u017e d\u00edt\u011b?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Pokud nen\u00ed pod vlivem spole\u010densk\u00e9ho tlaku, tak se v n\u011bm probud\u00ed touha m\u00edt d\u00edt\u011b kdy\u017e je s \u017eenou, kterou miluje a pokud <strong><em>se c\u00edt\u00ed b\u00fdt dost siln\u00fd.<\/em> <\/strong>Kdy\u017e m\u00e1 pocit, \u017ee stoj\u00ed na sv\u00fdch noh\u00e1ch, \u017ee od \u017eivota \u201c<strong>dostal dost<\/strong>\u201d a te\u010f je p\u0159ipraven d\u00e1vat. Kdy\u017e si v\u011b\u0159\u00ed, \u017ee by mohl b\u00fdt dobr\u00fdm otcem.<\/p>\n<p>Je jasn\u00e9, \u017ee ve 24 letech m\u00e1 mlad\u00fd mu\u017e je\u0161t\u011b hodn\u011b co \u201cdost\u00e1vat\u201d od \u017eivota\u2026 U\u010d\u00ed se, sb\u00edr\u00e1 pracovn\u00ed zku\u0161enosti, chod\u00ed na koncerty, tvo\u0159\u00ed, chce cestovat\u2026 M\u00e1 pocit, \u017ee narozen\u00ed d\u00edt\u011bte ho o v\u0161echno toto p\u0159iprav\u00ed. Co\u017e je do velk\u00e9 m\u00edry pravda. Ne v\u0161ak \u00fapln\u00e1. Kdy\u017e toti\u017e jsou oba man\u017eel\u00e9 aktivn\u00ed a je mezi nimi pochopen\u00ed a dobr\u00e1 spolupr\u00e1ce, tak se d\u00e1 i s mal\u00fdmi d\u011btmi d\u011blat ledacos.<\/p>\n<p>Nejd\u016fle\u017eit\u011bj\u0161\u00ed je nem\u00edt strach vz\u00edt na sebe odpov\u011bdnost, kterou rodina a d\u011bti p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Co ud\u011blat? <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Nejl\u00e9pe se lid\u00e9 poznaj\u00ed <strong><em>v sou\u017eit\u00ed<\/em><\/strong>, kdy\u017e spolu bydl\u00ed. Doporu\u010dila bych to vyzkou\u0161et. A pak pozorovat: Je ve vztahu d\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed a p\u0159ij\u00edm\u00e1n\u00ed v rovnov\u00e1ze? Nebo jeden v\u00edc d\u00e1v\u00e1 a druh\u00fd v\u00edc bere? Je On ekonomicky nez\u00e1visl\u00fd a d\u011bl\u00e1 mu radost investovat do vztahu? Je \u0161t\u011bdr\u00fd? Je schopn\u00fd spolupracovat? D\u011bl\u00ed se o dom\u00e1c\u00ed pr\u00e1ce a spole\u010dn\u00e9 povinnosti nebo sp\u00ed\u0161 t\u00edhne k tomu nechat se ope\u010dov\u00e1vat?<\/p>\n<p>Pokud je v poloze \u201cd\u00edt\u011b u maminky\u201d, pak z\u0159ejm\u011b spr\u00e1vn\u011b c\u00edt\u00ed, \u017ee nen\u00ed p\u0159ipraven na to b\u00fdt otcem, a je rozhodn\u011b lep\u0161\u00ed netla\u010dit. Stejn\u011b tak i v p\u0159\u00edpad\u011b, \u017ee ji vid\u00ed hlavn\u011b jako \u201cu\u010ditelku sexu\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Pokud se chov\u00e1 jako rovnocenn\u00fd partner, je dosp\u011bl\u00fd a nez\u00e1visl\u00fd, pak je pot\u0159eba aby se pod\u00edval na svoje priority. Cht\u011bl by m\u00edt d\u00edt\u011b? A pokud ano kdy? B\u011bhem 3-4 let? Jestli je spolehliv\u00fd a dok\u00e1\u017ee se postarat, tak je to o domluv\u011b.<\/p>\n<p>Samoz\u0159ejm\u011b plat\u00ed, \u017ee spole\u010dn\u00fd c\u00edl, podobn\u00e1 vize do budoucnosti je hodn\u011b d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e1. (Kdy\u017e nap\u0159. jeden z partner\u016f tou\u017e\u00ed budovat rodinn\u00fd podnik a druh\u00fd ps\u00e1t cestopis a procestovat cel\u00fd sv\u011bt, tak se budou m\u00edjet&#8230;) P\u0159esto v\u0161ak partne\u0159i, kte\u0159\u00ed jsou spolu v\u011bdom\u011b, se nec\u00edt\u00ed nesvobodn\u00ed. Dok\u00e1\u017e\u00ed spolupracovat a vz\u00e1jemn\u011b si poskytovat prostor i pro dal\u0161\u00ed osobn\u00ed rozvoj.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>P\u00e1r zv\u00eddav\u00fdch ot\u00e1zek na N\u00ed<\/strong>:<\/p>\n<p>Pro\u010d tou\u017e\u00ed\u0161 po svatb\u011b? Mysl\u00ed\u0161, \u017ee by za t\u00edm mohl b\u00fdt i strach, abys Ho neztratila? Chce\u0161 d\u00edt\u011b pr\u00e1v\u011b s N\u00edm, nebo prost\u011b chce\u0161 d\u00edt\u011b? Douf\u00e1\u0161, \u017ee d\u00edt\u011b v\u00e1\u0161 vztah stmel\u00ed, \u017ee budete m\u00edt spole\u010dn\u00fd c\u00edl? M\u00e1\u0161 strach, \u017ee roky ub\u00edhaj\u00ed a \u017ee to nestihne\u0161, st\u00e1t se matkou? Byla bys ochotn\u00e1 s N\u00edm z\u016fstat i za cenu, \u017ee byste nem\u011bli d\u011bti?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Recept na \u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u00fd vztah aneb Jak je to s tou \u201eopravdovou l\u00e1skou\u201c<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Aby byl vztah \u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u00fd a vydr\u017eel i v n\u00e1ro\u010dn\u011bj\u0161\u00edch situac\u00edch, pot\u0159ebuje l\u00e1sku, d\u016fv\u011bru a spolupr\u00e1ci.<\/p>\n<p>L\u00e1sku \u010dasto zam\u011b\u0148ujeme za t\u011blesnou p\u0159ita\u017elivost nebo za citovou pot\u0159ebu \u201cm\u00edt\u201d toho druh\u00e9ho, neb\u00fdt s\u00e1m. Ale to je sp\u00ed\u0161 z\u00e1vislost na druh\u00e9m. <strong><em>L\u00e1ska<\/em><\/strong> je p\u0159edev\u0161\u00edm respekt k osobnosti vlastn\u00ed i partnerov\u011b a touha se spole\u010dn\u011b rozv\u00edjet. Takov\u00e1 l\u00e1ska partnera neomezuje, ale podporuje. L\u00e1ska p\u0159esto\u017ee vypad\u00e1, \u017ee p\u0159in\u00e1\u0161\u00ed ob\u011bti, nevn\u00edm\u00e1 to, co v\u011bnuje, jako ob\u011b\u0165. Je to zp\u016fsob, jak\u00fdm vyjad\u0159uje sama sebe.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em> D\u016fv\u011bra<\/em><\/strong> je stav, kdy se neboj\u00edme, \u017ee se bude partner rozv\u00edjet na n\u00e1\u0161 \u00fakor.<\/p>\n<p><strong><em> Spolupr\u00e1ce<\/em><\/strong> je v\u011bdom\u00e9 p\u0159evzet\u00ed odpov\u011bdnosti role (partnersk\u00e9, pop\u0159. rodi\u010dovsk\u00e9). Zahrnuje v\u016fli j\u00edt za spole\u010dn\u00fdmi c\u00edly, dobrou komunikaci a aktivn\u00ed zapojen\u00ed. (\u00fa\u010dast)<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Na z\u00e1v\u011br:<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>31 let v dne\u0161n\u00ed dob\u011b nen\u00ed zdaleka v\u011bk, kter\u00fd by byl \u201eza p\u011bt minut dvan\u00e1ct\u201c na to st\u00e1t se matkou! Je to v\u0161ak v\u011bk, kdy m\u00e1 \u017eena zralost zv\u00e1\u017eit, co od \u017eivota a od sv\u00e9ho partnera chce.<\/p>\n<p>I kdyby se rozhodla odej\u00edt a hledat jin\u00e9ho mu\u017ee, je d\u016fle\u017eit\u00e9 ud\u011blat to s \u00factou k tomu, co s p\u0159edchoz\u00edm partnerem pro\u017eila a milovala. \u00dasp\u011b\u0161n\u00fd (l\u00e1skypln\u00fd) rozchod je snad je\u0161t\u011b v\u011bt\u0161\u00ed um\u011bn\u00ed ne\u017e \u00fasp\u011b\u0161n\u00fd l\u00e1skypln\u00fd vztah. Ale to u\u017e je zase jin\u00e9 t\u00e9ma&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>S l\u00e1skou Kalli<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Mil\u00e1 Kalli, moc r\u00e1da \u010dtu tvoje odpov\u011bdi, tak jsem se nakonec taky odhodlala se na tebe obr\u00e1tit. U\u017e mnohokr\u00e1t se tu psalo o l\u00e1sce v \u0158ecku, j\u00e1 bych r\u00e1da na\u010dala t\u00e9ma v\u011bkov\u00e9ho rozd\u00edlu. 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